Eating is a basic survival need that must be met, whether we like it or not. However, the emergence of social norms has made it so that dining alone can often seem, at best, odd, or at worst, miserable. It’s as if simply stepping into a restaurant because you’re hungry and craving something specific isn’t enough. On top of the thoughts whirling in our own minds, the looks and stares from others can pile on. Why do we make eating alone so difficult?
The Stigma of Dining Alone in Korea
Eating alone may attract some attention from people around the world, but there’s one place where this phenomenon is more pronounced: South Korea. It’s not an isolated experience—many who have tried, or heard of others trying, dining alone in the country are familiar with the fact that this practice is not as widely accepted as it is in other regions.
A quick search on the internet will pull up charts categorising how challenging a solo dining situation is, forums discussing how to best break the news that eating alone can indeed be desired by some, and op-eds promoting the concept of eating alone. Stemming from its strong cultural emphasis on societal expectations and a sense of belonging, South Korea can appear less welcoming to those who seek some me-time.
There are certain establishments that have made a name for themselves for being more averse to solo diners. Restaurants serving anju, or food meant to be consumed with alcohol, are one such example. Korean barbecue restaurants are another, especially those that only provide spreads for two or more. On the other hand, fast food restaurants and traditional hole-in-the-wall shops are considered to be more lone-diner friendly.
Although not as intense in Singapore, there’s still a feeling of awkwardness when it comes to eating alone in a Korean barbecue restaurant here.
How to Enjoy Korean Barbecue by Yourself
Asking for a “table for one” might raise a few eyebrows for some, but for those of us at Nami Korean Grill House, it’s nothing new or unheard of. That’s why we’re here to share some tips to make your solo dining experience more enjoyable—whether it’s minimising self-consciousness, making better decisions when faced with a mouth-watering menu, or simply convincing yourself that you can totally do it again.
The thing is, even though Korean barbecue is traditionally a communal affair, there’s no hard rule that forbids you from going at it alone. In fact, we see plenty of reasons why you should! If you’re someone who’s been wanting to try it without the company of others, but aren’t sure where or how to start, here are some helpful tips.
Tips to Feast on KBBQ Alone, Like You’ve Done It a Thousand Times
1. Pick a Restaurant You Like
The first step to making this testing experience truly enjoyable is choosing a restaurant you genuinely want to visit. Picking a place where you’re excited about the food is already half the battle won. However, for a safer solution, make sure to consider the environment as well. If it’s your first time, starting with convenience stores, fast food spots, or snack bars might feel a bit more comfortable before venturing into a more formal sit-down establishment.
2. Choose a Comfortable Spot
The goal is to eventually brush off any unwanted attention, but until then, settling down in the right spot can help you avoid curious glances. Some Korean barbecue restaurants offer counter seating, which is far less conspicuous than sitting at a large table with a grill all to yourself. If that’s not an option, a corner or wall-side table is a great alternative—it gives you a bit of privacy while letting you people-watch as you eat. Whatever you do, avoid the centre of the room unless you’re already immune to the stares!
3. Order What You Want (But Don’t Overorder)
If you’re eating alone, you can’t afford to be less than strategic with your orders. You should, at the very least, be realistic with what you can finish to prevent food waste (a no-no, as not finishing your meal can be seen as disrespectful in Korean culture). Because KBBQ usually caters to groups, keep an eye out for individual sets or à la carte options meant for one person. Thankfully, Korean restaurants often come with banchan, which can make you feel like there’s good variety even without ordering numerous different dishes!
4. Distract Yourself
What’s your weapon of choice? Bringing something with you on your solo excursions to a new restaurant can make the experience feel less intimidating. A book or a tablet can take the edge off by serving as a welcome distraction when you’re not actively grilling or eating. Before you get accustomed to the radio silence (or the chatter involving everyone but you), companionship from entertainment can make all the difference.
5. Focus on the Experience
There’s no point in dwelling in awkwardness once you’ve already decided to dine alone. Remember, while it may cost you some unease, you stand to gain a sense of confidence, independence, and the simple joy of enjoying a meal on your own terms. Dining alone can also provide you with the unrestricted freedom to experiment with new flavours without worrying about someone else’s taste buds. Embrace the calmness that comes with eating alone, and connect with the environment around you by taking it all in.
Bonus: Do It Again
The first time is always the hardest, but once you’ve faced it, you’ll have gained the confidence to do it again. The second time will be easier, and the third time even easier, until it becomes second nature. With each experience, the initial self-perceived awkwardness fades—and soon, you’ll feel more at home, even if you’re visiting a brand new restaurant. What once felt daunting and anxiety-inducing becomes an empowering and comfortable routine, transitioning from something to look forward to and that recharges you rather than avoid!
Final Thoughts
The journey to enjoying a solo meal at a Korean BBQ might have its bumps, but with a little practice and the right mindset, it’ll become a regular and rewarding experience. Let go of the discomfort and start savouring the independence, flavour, and joy that come with dining solo!
A good starting point to unpack the entire experience is at Nami Korean Grill House. We offer a relaxed and hospitable setting for diners, whether alone or in pairs or groups. From premium meats to comfortable seating and a laid-back atmosphere, your needs will be met with warm service and an authentic KBBQ experience that makes dining alone feel just as—if not more—enjoyable as dining with others.
Don’t lose your spot—make a reservation with Nami Korean Grill House today!
